- Codependency (Definition within the pages of LetgoletGod.org.)
“When ones’ sense of well-being depends on or is controlled by the circumstances of another.”
Definitions given by “Recovery Professionals” are somewhat more involved, and you can read one “here.” Intervention / Treatment/ Recovery Org is fairly well respected, anyway… they say:
“… Codependency condition(s) often form or maintain relationships that are one-sided, emotionally destructive and/or abusive verbally or physically.”
In recent days (since SCOTUS issued decisions that go against “Christian” values) — to one degree or another — we’ve seen Pastors, Elders and even the children of basic pew-sitters demonstrate all of those negative characteristics speaking about US Leaders. All of whom we’re instructed to honor.
It’s disconcerting to say the least. These are addictive behaviors, people.
However there are some relationships that are biblically co-dependent. Paul, discussing the most codependent of relationships – marriage, says some illuminating things. He aims to “keep us in our place” 1 Cor. 7.
Jesus said to men: “Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave Himself up for her.” Eph 5:25
Paul’s marriage advice is closely followed by his “food offered to Idols” exhortation. Review the operative phrases…
“We know that we all have knowledge. Knowledge puffs up, but love edifies. And if anyone thinks that he knows anything, he knows nothing yet as he ought to know. But if anyone loves God, this one is known by Him.
… for us there is one God, the Father, of whom are all things, and we for Him; and one Lord Jesus Christ, through whom are all things, and through whom we live.
However, there is not in everyone that knowledge; for some, … their conscience, being weak, is defiled.” 1 Cor 8:1-7
God gives us freedom to indulge a weak conscience. Paul saw this in terms of those confined by their attitudes toward food offered to Idols. For some it’s no biggie. Others? Not so much. For those of us who are free and following a path of righteousness — we are commanded not to stumble our brothers.
And it’s Secular Government that legislates the right to these freedoms – rights to choose behaviors that are less than the truth, to indulge compulsions that exert influence over weaker consciences. It’s been said often “You cannot legislate morality.” And yet, we are upset because our secular government interprets the constitution in these ways? Rational inconsistency like this is craziness.
To end our codependency with government (and shed all those negative behaviors) — we have to choose to be dependent on God.
Remember what God said to Samuel?
“Heed the voice of the people in all that they say to you; for they have not rejected you, but they have rejected Me, that I should not reign over them. According to all the works which they have done since the day that I brought them up out of Egypt, even to this day—with which they have forsaken Me and served other gods—so they are doing to you also. Now therefore, heed their voice. However, you shall solemnly forewarn them..” 1 Sam. 8:7-9
Letgoletgod.org does not condone sin. Sin separates us from the love of God. Yet we love those who struggle with sinful compulsions. We exist to assist. In the place of hopelessness, experiencing slavery to our vices, we point to Jesus as the “way, the truth and the life.” He said: “No man comes to the Father except by me.” John 14:6
Jesus also said:
“Take My yoke upon you and learn from Me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and YOU WILL FIND REST FOR YOUR SOULS. “For My yoke is easy and My burden is light.” Mt. 11:29-30
In the end, it’s not the rule of law that saves us. It’s grace. And the same applies to government. No laundry list of statutes restricting various wrong lifestyles – can keep the country Godly. Godliness comes only through having a relationship with him.
Perhaps we disconnect from old behaviors (of codependence with the institutions of governance) and refocus our efforts.
Step 12. Having had a spiritual awakening as the result of these steps, we tried to carry this message to others, and to practice these principles in all our affairs.
What message is that? It’s the Gospel.